Marriage is Important to God
Christians divorcing on the grounds of fading love, personality differences, financial disagreements, even conflicting theologies, et .....
None these are reasons for divorce.
I have been feeling very disturbed by the lack of regard I am seeing in the Body of Christ for the covenant of marriage.
I'm seeing marriages break up for what I consider to be, flippant issues.
Issues that can be resolved through forgiveness, prayer and intercession.
We must remind ourselves that we have a Covenant Lord.
We are the Bride of Christ.
Marriage is at the Heart of His Kingdom.
The Lord Yahweh takes the rite of covenant very seriously.
Just as Unforgiveness is not an option in Christianity.
Divorce should be regarded with a great fear of the Lord by all true believers.
We are not of the world anymore. And we must cease thinking like the world.
Rather than escaping marriage ... use the trials you have faced as a means of exploring a deeper level of forgiveness and love....and pressing in relentless for Victory through prayer.
1) DEATH of a partner ends the covenant of marriage.
2) Sexual immorality is the second reason permitted as grounds to leave a marriage.
3) If an unbeliever chooses to leave a marriage, we are no longer bound to a marriage. Let them leave.
"But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace." ~ 1 Corinthians 7:15
4) What about abuse
The only other reason I believe that one may seek the Lord about separation, I believe is for personal safety reasons. Even then, please bring this to the Lord and seek counsel from your elders.
Where physical abuse is involved, look to place yourself in safety. And then press in for guidance from the Lord.
The Bible does not make clear mention of abuse as being a grounds for divorce, but you can certainly place yourself in safety as you intercede through prayer for the salvation of your partner.
In extreme scenarios such as this, ask the Lord for a sign and confirmation as you seek His guidance. He is faithful to answer us.
Upon receipt of His answer we must remain obedient.
Nonetheless, a Covenant made before the eyes of the Lord is HOLY.
It is not easily ended.
If at all.
"And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”" ~ Matthew 19:4/6
*Note: I refer to genuine marriages here.
A covenant is made were a vow and agreement has been publicly declared before witnesses, in a manner recognized by the culture we live in and the authority that we abide by.
If a true covenant has NOT been made by both parties, you're simply living together in sin, and committing adultery.
I have witnessed some who hold a casual regard to the covenant of marriage even amidst the Body of Christ.
I'm seeing the twisting of scripture to suit comfort levels and convenience.
Sometimes we have to suffer much that does not seem fair or right ... Endeavour to SUBMIT AND HONOR our partners with the Lord's help.
The Lord is turning us into Saints and marriage is one powerful experience that He uses to build patience, long suffering, a nature of unceasing forgiveness, love that never ends or seeks another ....
But the civilized world cuts short the Lord's Powerful training ground ...
The world and the mind of man supplies all forms of evidence to justify ENDING THIS PAINFUL CONNECTION.
PUT AN END TO THE EMOTIONAL PAIN THEY SAY.
ITS A HOPELESS CAUSE.
INJUSTICE IS CITED.
BUT THIS IS THE VERY REFINING OF GOLD BY FIRE WE ARE PREPARED FOR THROUGHOUT THE HOLY SCRIPTURES, THAT YOU ARE CHOOSING TO END.
AND YOU ARE REFUSING TO SEE THE UNSEEN, YOU ARE REFUSING TO HAVE FAITH IN A WHOLE NEW OUTCOME COMING FORTH.
This WILL come when you intercede.
And it requires much prayer, fasting and FAITH that a TRANSFORMATION can indeed occur.
Cease rebelling against the Lord's ways.
SUBMIT and intercede for your partner.
BELIEVING THAT YOUR PRAYERS WILL BE ANSWERED.
YOU ARE ONE IN CHRIST.
DON'T GIVE UP ON THEM.
LOVE THEM WHEN IT HURTS.
Let them witness what a true Saint looks like and how a true Saint behaves.
The definition of Saint is a certain person of EXCEPTIONAL HOLINESS.
Let's not take on a title without LIVING IT.
Lastly, I would like to say that your marriage is NOT just between you and your partner.
So you do not possess the right to simply concede defeat and choose to fail your marriage when you've had enough.
There is someone else intimately involved, who needs to be considered, consulted and submitted to.
HOLY SPIRIT is the THIRD person involved in your marriage.
He is always present to demonstrate the meekness, unconditional love, compassion, the Extreme PATIENCE that each party must possess to remain in Holy Covenant.
Take His lead and learn from His Nature ....
There is a Mystery in Marriage that you don't want to lose out on !
TRUE MARRIAGE IN THE LORD MEANS GOING THE DISTANCE DESPITE "IRRECONCILABLE" DIFFERENCES.
Because NOTHING is irreconcilable for the Lord !
For a Cord of THREE strands, IS NOT EASILY BROKEN.
"Though one may be overpowered,
Two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."
~ Ecclesiastes 4:12